Batweb: Words: Everything I know

On communities, people and personal development

If you change your personality and join an underground community, you will need an alter ego.
Just don't choose "Style" as your alter ego, because that is already taken and any variation on it is just a bit creepy
Every journey starts with an innocent phone call
If you can work what artificial airs, graces and affectations you are putting on to try to attract women (and stop them), then there is a chance you will meet and attract a really great woman who you want to spend the rest of your life with
No matter how good you are, there will always be someone come along who is younger, better and more hungry than you are.
But that is OK, because by then you should have learnt enough about yourself to have changed
Posting stories of your exploits with women makes most men uncomfortable and reminds them of the "true" stories found in certain magazines
Faith, be it in a Pick Up Artist Guru, religion or anything else pretty much always requires that you renounce all other faiths

On men and what they think

All men spend far too much time thinking about women
Men generally don't communicate to each other with the same level of emotional depth and intimate detail as most women. Women discuss everything
Women respond to metaphor and suggestion. Men respond to pretty much anything
Men feel unworthy around beautiful women
Women, by and large, are more perceptive than men

On how to pick up women

When it comes to interacting with women, some men are "naturals", the rest of the male population are just AFC's
If you want to pick up a woman, do not pay attention to her best feature
There is a linear progression to picking up a woman: It might be 4 steps or 13 but if you follow them you can pick up women
Women of beauty are rarely found alone
A neg is neither a compliment nor an insult. It is an ambiguous statement of seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman with the intent of actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her
Negs are very important if you want to pick up women
The number 1 characteristic of an Alpha Male is a smile. The other 4 characteristics are confidence, being well groomed, possessing a sense of humour and being seen as the social centre of a room
You don't have to tell the truth when flirting
A man has 3 seconds after spotting a woman to talk to her. If he takes any longer then the woman will most likely think he is a creep
Never approach a woman from behind. Always come in from the front, but at a slight angle so it is not too direct and confrontational
As a species, humans need touch
Never tell a woman that her hair smells of smoke. Even if it does
Tell her that there is an intoxicating smell to her
If you think you could have kissed a woman, you could have
The "Mystery Kiss Close" consists of asking a woman if you would like to kiss you. If she says 'Yes', which is rare, you kiss her. If she says 'Maybe' you say 'Then let's find out'. If she says 'No' you say 'I didn't say you could. You just look like you have something on your mind'
The combination of desire and social paralysis is deadly to all men
The secret to picking up women knowing what to say, and when and how to say it (Duh!)
Anything you want from a woman- attraction, lust, fascination- is just an internal process that runs through her body and her brain. You can link those feeling to you by asking her questions that make her go into her body and her brain to experience the feeling to answer you.
But you shouldn't do that because it is evil
Survival of the fittest is an anachronism. Today it is survival of the smoothest
The best predators approach their prey slowly and harmlessly, win its trust and then attack
It is possible to learn about body language, flirting and sexual therapy from books
In order to pick up a woman you need to demonstrate that you have value
This must be important because I learnt it twice
Anyone talking to a woman whilst simultaneously worrying about what she thinks about him is going to fail. Anyone caught thinking about getting into a woman's pants before she starts thinking about whats is his pants is definitely doomed. Most men fall into this category
Smelly feet are a deal breaker. No-one wants to smell them, so do something about it
Humans are wired for a tribabl society where everyone knows if a woman has rejected a man, this the root cause of most of men's social paralysis
If you focus your entire life on picking up women then a gulf between men and women can open in your mind
The worrying thing is that creating this gulf can actually make you more successful at picking up women
The more intelligent, perceptive and educated a woman is, the more likely a PUA's routines are to work on her
Alcohol has never caused anyone to do something they didn't want to: It only enables them to do what they have always repressed
[Not entirely sure that I agree with this statement - It is absolutely certain that alcohol has been the direct cause of things happening that people did not want to happen.
The greatest fear a PUA has is the fear of sexual rejection
In modern life women do not hold a lot of power in society; except in the area of secual choice where there are indisputably in control
Life is short and the world is large
The world is changing and it is always good to check with the foreign office before you set off on an adventure
When a border guard points a loaded weapon at you, it is time to pay attention
Actaully I already knew that one as it had happened to me at London Gatwick Airport
The longest distance in the world is the 3" between a man's and a woman's face as he tries to pluck up courage to kiss her
If you wait for good things to happen to come to you, you will miss out. But good things are often nearby, you just need to put in the effort to make it happen
Talking too fast is usually a sign of a deep lack of confidence. People who talk fast are often either wierd or a writer
The way to talk to someone you have just met is to talk in statements- this is the way old friends talkt to each other. Statements are made by people who are confident, who are giving and who can be intimate
There is no way to copyright a woman's arousal, to declare certain authorship over her choice of a partner
Sometimes, as your life changes, you finish up spending time with people you would never has associated with before.
This may not be a good thing
Seduction implies trickery, being dishonest and hiding your motives. Attaction is working on yourself and improving yourself so that want to be around you
It is much more rewarding to be funny than creepy
Emotions are just energy and motion that you trap inside of you because of a thought
A PUA will conciously ignore a beautiful woman
Beauty is common. What counts is a great outlook and great personality
Which reminds me of a dialogue from Pulp Fiction: "Personality goes a long way" but as that was about eating bacon maybe it isn't quite so relevant here
Never introduce yourself to a woman. Allow her to introduce herself to you
A true PUA never buys drinks, meals or gifts for a woman. That is for dating and dating is for AFC's
There is a paradox that applies to all seducers: The better you are at seduction, the less you will like women
If you are a natural at picking up women, then those women may become gods to you. But be aware, they are false gods
Just when you start having some fun, someone will come along and try to save you
If you are going to get a tattoo, make sure you do it right
David Beckham should have read this list before he ventured into a tattoo parlour
Unless you are sure you can pull it off, if you dress to convey sexuality, you might just come across as cheesy.
And if you are reading this trust me, you won't be able to pull it off
None of us is living up to our potential
You can be a really good PUA, but if someone thinks you are a celebrity then the Game just moved to a whole new level
Being a PUA is like being a standup comedian: You work out a routine that works and can win over any audience. The problem is that you may lose respect for each new audience as they respond in the same way as the last one to the material
Laughter is the best seduction
Having a child is the ultimate experience. It is what we are here for
You just know that these words were uttered by someone who has never had a child
Humans need targets to strive for
Without initiative we are doomed to a dull life
A woman can fall out of love with you just as quickly as she fell in love with you
Don't fear love when it comes simply because it makes you vulnerable. But don't be surprised when it leaves either. Just be glad you had the opportunity to experience it
To be really successful at anything you have to see the big picture (whilst at the same time nailing the details
Once unleashed a woman's physical needs are often more ravenous than a man's. It is just that there are certain barriers and programming walls to be overcome in order for her to feel comfortable enough to surrender to them
The following are the rules to Picking Up a woman:
1. Your opener needs to be casual
2. Give yourself a false time constraint
3. As you interact with the group that your target is in, pay attention to the people likely to shut you out
4. Challenge, tease and neg the target
5. Demonstrate value to the target
Do this correctly and you will pick up women: Now relax and enjoy their company; take them on an instant date, give the woman an opportunity to be alone with you without giving her friends a false impression (e.g. sharing a cab) and then arrange to meet later.
Repeat.
Make sure you give the impression that you are the first to object to "going too far"
Trust must be earnt. And it can easily be lost
Even if you start out craving attention you will eventually finish up looking for love
Every kind of demagogery depends on routines: Religion in pickup, Politics is pickup
We use routines every day to get what we want without letting people know the nasty thoughts we are thinking
Scientology has a code of honour:
- Set a good example
- Fulfill your obligations
- Never need praise or sympathy
- Don't compromise your reality
Sarging is for losers. Real success is achieved through lifestyle. Building a lifestyle is cumulative: Everything you do counts
All human problems fall into one of three areas:
1. Health
2. Wealth
3. Relationships
If you to formulate rules to live by, then someone will break those rules
If you believe that you need to have something and having that thing is normal, you will be able to find people who agree with you. If you want the same thing but secretly feel it is unethical to have it, you will never have it
If you describe something with enthusiasm and confidence, people will want to try it. Especially if you don't give them the chance to say no
The less you appear to be trying, the better you do
If social intelligence does not come easily to you, you can come across as self centred. This is not cool<.li>
Women's bedrooms are soft and sweet smelling. Like heaven should be
A frame is the perspective through which one sees the world. Whoever's frame is strongest tends to dominate the interaction
If you sit the average male in front of anything half way intriguing and explain to him that there is a ranking system and he can get better over time, there is a good chance he will become obsessed with it
The pickup lifestyle can make you one dimensional. In order to obtain a lifestyle you must maintain balance.
Men marry women not expecting them to change, but they do.
Women marry men expecting them to change, and they don't
Most robots don't program themselves- they can learn, but the fundamental logic must be programmed by others
The comdedian Ali G has the finest answer to any statement that leaves you dumbfounded:
"Respect"
Every woman is different in bed. Each has their own tastes, quirks and fantasies
The "48 Laws of Power" by Robert Green is a recommended read for Pick Up Arists
It is also mercilessly destroyed by Aaron Sorkin in "Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip"
If you use the skills you learnt as a PUA to enhance your lifestyle, you can improve more than just your sex life
Pickup "Game" works better on celebrities than real people
Pickup is a linear process: Capture the interest first and then the heart
Interest + attraction + seduction = sex
Growing one's self esteem takes time
Mating is largely a game of chance:
Women are at different phases in their life when they meet- they may be looking for a boyfriend, a one night stand a husband or a revenge fuck. Or maybe nothing at all
If you want a two women, one man threesome, you need to make it the woman's fantasy
There is a rule in relationships called "Rock versus Gold":
A woman wants rocks- these are wonderful nights out, romantic attention and emotional connections
A man wants sex
In order for there to be a good relationship there needs to be both rocks and gold
There are different skills needed to pick up a woman from those needed to keep her in a relationship
Even if you are a bit of a creep and socially inept before you learn game you will still be able to pick up women.
But you will still be a bit creepy and socially inept
When you spend long enough in a community, even one you are supposidly distant from, you can still establish meaningful relationships with people in the community
All the techniques used in Game to begin a relationship violate every principle of maintaining one
Everyone wants to be seduced. It makes us feel wanted
Tom Cruise has a really weird laugh. And it makes people around him uncomfortable
The routines, structure and tactics used by a PUA are exactly the same as those used by members of scientology to recruit new converts
A difference in musical taste my well be an indicator of greater incompatibility in a relationship
Never underestimate your capacity to care
Some people are so scared of achieving the success they crave that they actively avoid attempting to achieve anything
Even if humans are simply programs designed by evolution, they are too complex to truly understand. All we know is a few simple cause and effects
Constant attempts at validation by picking up wome will result in occasional (or even frequent) failure. These failures can harden you towards women.
There is a trait that every PUA desires but does not have: the ability to not give a fuck
The best way to take a compliment is just to say "Thank you" or "Thanks". It is the only response a confident person can make
If you find yourself surrounded by needy (and/ or neurotic) people you may well find yourself becoming a leader
Given the right circumstances anyone can learn about group dynamics
Good posture is an attractive thing. A good posture can indicate confidence
Chemistry between two people is when they both have a passion for the same thing. And scientists can measure this through the production of pheromones
Of the many effects alcohol can have on a human, one of the lesser known ones is that it is a truth serum
Every man eventually falls for the 'one woman' and gets one-itis. At that point you WILL become too clingy and needy
Never pretend to be someone you are not just to seduce a woman
A long term relationship needs to be based on respect and kindness
In order to sleep with a woman, a man must initially pretend that he doesn't want to
Men are visual thinkers. Thus we are often deceived by our eyes. But the truth is that the fantasy that a mind can create based on an image is often not attainable by the reality
Men are not dogs, though we often think that we are. If a woman believes in our more noble nature this belief will inspire us to live up to it
In a fight, the insane have a definite advantage
The behaviour necessary to be a PUA is similar to that exhibited by an alpha male. But if that behaviour does not come naturally to you, you will come across as acting immature.
A woman can develop feelings from a man simply through the act of having sex with a man
For most of their childhood women are taught to be subservient to male figures. Some women continue to use the techniques they learn to manipulate their father's on the rest of the world
Don't be afraid of yourself
Only a mother can reduce one's entire raison d'etre & ambition to the one basic insecurity fuelling it all
there is a downside to casual sex: Sometimes it stops being casual
There are very few ethical rules in seduction: One you should remember is "Leave her feeling better than you fond her
If you are already emotionally unstable then the last thing you should do is start drinking
A sequence of routines or a system of behaviour can never fix what is broken inside
The male penis (what they have female penises?) has emotions: If it really likes you it will stay hard. 3 or 4 times if it really likes you
Rehab can do wonders for your complexion. So can getting laid
One night stands and casual sex are false intimacy. In a real relationship sex means more than the physical act
It is not possible to pick apart the idea of 'coolness' to a series of behaviours that you can model
If you find the right woman she will love you for exactly who you are: physically, emotionally, mentally. In fact, all the techniques you learn as a PUA may actually keep her away
On the other hand, without the increase in self-confidence you get from knowing how to be a PUA, you probably wouldn't have the nerve to talk to her, so you would never meet her.
A man never chooses a woman. All he can do is give her the opportunity to choose him
It is not possible to create something good based on false reality
Most times when you are searching outside yourself for missing pieces you are looking in the wrong direction: The answers are to be found within
Sometimes you need to ask yourself "What would Tom Cruise do?" The problem with this advice is that you may find yourself jumping up and down on a couch. And only he can get away with doing that- you will just look like a crazy person
Being in a relationship requires a lot more time and effort than picking someone up